Twin Letters: Worries

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I’m worried you won’t want me there.

I’m worried you’ll see me as a parasitic invasion into your private life. Your personal space. Turning up the heater, hogging your favorite side of the bed, blasting mind-numbing TV shows for hours on end for no reason other than to have some sound going on in the house.

Calling you out on every girl you talk to. Asking you where you’re going and who you’re hanging out with. Begging you to do something other than play video games with your friends all night long.

Burning the house down because I left the stove on in the kitchen. Leaving my panties on the floor, hanging off the dresser hooks. A pile of dirty laundry sitting underneath the window sill, just waiting to be done. Morning breath and the sticky sweat of hours of nightmarish slumber.

Who would want that, right.

I’m worried you won’t want this imperfect me. It’s been a struggle keeping it up as long as we have for as many miles apart as we are. We came up with a workable system. Something that the two of us hammered out over the course of the past two years. Expectations we’ve set up so that the two of us can feel secure in our partnership, in our union.

Not all of that is going to work anymore, once we’re in close quarters. Things that ran smoothly for us when we were six thousand miles apart break and collapse as soon as we’re six inches away from each other. And what are we going to erect in their place?

Walls, to keep each other out? Walls, borne out of fear and worry and anxiety and – maybe even – regret? It was hard crafting these workarounds in the first place. We’ve forgotten the blood and tears that went into their formation. We emerge now, with a system in place, with something that works, and we forget how hard it was to come so far in the first place.

And now we’re thrust right back at the beginning, to start a whole new kind of relationship, to finally get to know one another in that way we’ve been missing for so long. But how many new workarounds will we need to create? How much more blood and tears need to be shed before we find a new system? Is our bond strong – and flexible – enough, to be molded in this way? Torn and shredded and folded and stuffed into a new pattern, like a puzzle piece that doesn’t quite fit but you make it do so, because you have to?

It would be easier if it were just like water, flowing easily to fit itself to whatever container it’s poured into. But that’s not how it is. It’s going to be tough. It’s going to be hard. And I’m deathly afraid that we’re not going to make it out the other side.

 

Prompt [1 of 2]: Compose a love letter to your object of feet-chill. Celebrate all of the reasons you fell in love with him/her/it in the first place. List everything positive you can think of, and nothing negative. Now write a missive. Vent all of your worries about the situation, and try to make a case against moving forward. I’ll bet you can’t come up with a single true deal-breaker, but giving your worries some air will feel good.
Read more at http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/beyondblue/2009/07/4-ways-to-get-past-cold-feet-o.html#wEoF4ryyAoKJ8Lhz.99

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